Freedom Time / Mystery of Iniquity

I never tire of listening to these tracks. They need to go on my blog along with many other tracks from the Unplugged album.

I am sending Ms Lauryn Hill Love and hope that November means Freedom for her.

In Love and Light, always.

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Goal: Define work terms on the Female Principle.

Great read in the Guardian today (well 5th October – I am catching up on the world, now I have my head out of work project mode) on a topic very close to my heart. Women at work and the balance we need to negotiate, define and claim as our right.  Take a read here of ‘Women at work: Forget the balance, this is the merge’

I am such an advocate of this. Women do need, no, it is our duty to ‘remake the work place in our image’. It really is not enough to just give ourselves a pat on the back that ‘we made it’ to the top without renegotiating the terms to include what we, as females, have to balance: work, life, family/children without feeling like we ‘failed’ at any or all.

This idea of defining those terms and being empowered enough to demand them is truly changing the terms and negating ‘male supremacist’ ideals that we live in. Women executives need to redefine this from the top, and be supported by women still climbing the ladder to create the framework we need in the workplace.

I know this first hand. The more Senior I become in my field the narrower it becomes to actually achieving all I need to without the ‘ career fear’ factor setting in. Can I have children now and not mess up my career? What am I going to do as a mother who wants to work, needs to work for my own self-fulfillment and well-being? Will this make me a bad mother? Will society judge me? Can I afford child care? Are the crippling costs of child care in the UK really supporting women to go back to the workplace? What if I don’t have a choice as a single mother? If I was living in Lagos, what would my worries be?….the questions are endless and we alone are answering them so why not, now, renegotiate the terms in our favour.  Interestingly, my next pipeline project will be working with 3 executive males with me as the only SME to aid them achieving the strategic vision. What will this mean for me?  It will be interesting how we navigate my need to balance my work-health as well as family-children needs. Neither of which are negotiable but I am still capable of navigating it all  and doing a great job without feeling like I ‘failed’ in any if I define the terms and not have them defaulted for me.

I am true to myself. As the song I was learning on my guitar this weekend rightly declares: ‘I’ve got to do me, no matter where I’m at and it ain’t easy. But it’s my life, my life, my life…’

So, I’m putting my ideals to practice. I’m game. Nothing to lose really and my male counterparts can actually benefit and learn from it too. I am going to buy the book and will keep you posted. Experiment: Define your work terms on the Female Principle.

Lupe’s Fiasco: Bitch Bad, Woman Good, Queen Better?

Before writing about Lupe’s new offering ‘Bitch Bad’ let’s take a moment to understand what he is addressing:

The negative reviews are overtly harsh and somewhat convoluted. It is easy to find fault in his words. He used the  B-word in juxtaposition to ‘Woman good, Lady better’. So what? Are we becoming a society too bogged down in semantics that instead of finding points to liberate from them, they only serve to blur the issues at hand, with no clear steps to resolution? As such, we bypass the super-objective in its entirety and forget to celebrate the direct and no-sugar coated open discourse on an issue that is shaping how young girls view, not only themselves, but how they are viewed by their male counterparts.

Would the lyrics ‘Bitch Bad, Woman Good, Queen better’ change the super objective. No. It remains the same. But, it would alter the negative noise around the word choices in the song; and all for the better because that focus misses the point entirely.

In context, the direction and what he addresses is spot on. Therefore, it might be worth considering also the audience he is attempting to address and why.  One cannot diminish its positive logic in the semantics of language. Language is not static. It evolves and morphs with the times. Not to digress, but not long ago we were up in arms about text language and its potential destruction of a literacy culture and heritage for the next generation. Well, isn’t that what Lupe is addressing here too? ‘Bitch Bad, Woman Good, Lady Better’?

For Lupe to address this denigration of Women, he should be commended not vilified. This song is about Value. The problem he highlights is one derived from the negative association with the term. “Bitch” in itself is not a bad word, it is the concepts tied to it that is bad, which is what he addresses in this song. It is the termination of the ideas embedded in the words that it embodies that we must abolish and fight against. It is the denigration and loathing of the Female self  (Black and White and all in-between) that he addresses and asks us (male and female) to move from. For this, he merits support. Because is it not the reinforcement of negative ideas behind any derogatory term what we collectively aim to diminish?

Fela’s ‘Lady’ –  from which I clearly and unconsciously coined my moniker and also because my initial is actually ‘O’ – can also be viewed with the same lens here. It addressed the discourse of African women wanting and demanding equality in a tradition that renders them subservient to their male siblings and counterparts at birth. Here too he juxtapositions the words ‘Woman’ and ‘Lady’ but in the context of Europeans bringing the idea of equality with men as a foreign and unwanted concept to the African woman, who as a result, wants to be viewed as ‘Lady O!’. As we know, there are many examples of amazing African Women, his own Mother and market women included, who rendered (and continue to render) this limited and limiting position obsolete.

The HuffPo piece is worth a read. I found this also, you can hear more of his thoughts about the record in retrospect:

Rather than shoot him down because he didn’t use ‘Queen’ or ‘Empress’ or even just leave it at ‘Woman’, let’s applaud without a semantical debate obfuscating the emancipating objective of his offering and the highlighting of how big this issue really is for both the Male and Female psychology and relationship. Well done Lupe.