I loath Drake. I cannot tell you how much. I despise the Young Money, Cash Money crew morons with Lil Wayne at the misogynistic helm of it all with a passion I can hardly express coherently without wanting to throw my computer at the TV or the Radio into the dustbin when they are on either. This was never music to me, this is an assault that makes me want to get my fatigues out and go to war banning this crap from the airwaves!

Last night, I watched the VMAs, when Drake the moron declared his award dedication to ‘any kid who ever walked alone..this one’s for you..BITCH!”  What does this mean? Why would ‘Bitch’ be an appropriate end to an otherwise sensible dedication for kids who were bullied or made to feel an outsider.

I swear I saw Rihanna mouth ‘Arseholes’ as the moronic clan trooped on stage to make this absurd declaration. She would be right. They are the worst kind of ‘edutainers’ polluting the minds of the young and the ignorant to perpetuate an attitude that really must be stopped, erased, wiped out of our society and consciousness. To further incense, Lil Wayne and 2 maybe 3 or 4Chainz (who cares how many chains you have?) got on stage to further provide an onslaught of misogyny under the guise of music; with full support of the frankly confused Nicki Minaj in tow….words fail me.

My brother used to send me (not anymore) music splattered with Bitch, hoe, and more imagery of violence than I can stomach in any life time, let alone the one I have. I had several strong sharp words but I am still astounded that even a boy with as much sensitivity and love as he, with 3 sisters who have loved him unconditionally, could be flippant about this verbal violence towards women. He knows better. Surely, he knows better? Then this article I was sent by a friend this morning clarified some of these questions for me. I am sharing it here.

There really are men out there who are conscious, honest about their experiences, who are raising sons and daughters with a consciousness of patriarchy that has shaped them and how they too ‘awakened’ are challenging those instincts in themselves, but more importantly that the challenge should also be directed amongst each other.

Following the controversy of Lupe Fiasco’s ‘Bitch Bad’ and the arguments one can leverage at his convoluted offering; I do believe this as an important element to begin deconstruction of patriarchy in the minds of boys as they become men; as well as men who might not be aware of the ‘default’ they subscribe to. Its not an easy road but pontificating about it within a closed group of intellectual women, who albeit right, isn’t going to cause a shift in their thinking. It needs to be out in the ‘playground’, boys and girls calling each other out and being empowered to do so with courage as ammunition that sometimes it is good to be the kid walking alone and no it doesn’t make you weak. In reality, the journey – any journey – begins internally, alone. In the dark corners of our minds where we are saying ‘No more. This is wrong’.

Let me know your thoughts. In Love and Light.